My friend says: "I wasn't sitting close enough to have a conversation with him (the aisle and his wife were between us, but we were in the same row) and felt he would shut me down right away anyway. I couldn't sit so close to him and I was shaking so hard. I asked to be moved up a couple rows where I couldn't see him." And then, for the next two hours, my friend prayed. After landing, as Carhart walked off the plane, my friend told him "Leroy, we're all praying for you."
So let's give some thought to that question now. It's an unlikely scenario, certainly. (My friend is a very frequent flier and this is the first such encounter he's ever had.) But it can't hurt to be prepared!
If I had the chance to speak to Carhart in particular, I would want to ask some questions along the lines of: "Do you feel bad about Jennifer? I haven't seen anything in the press where you've offered an apology. And you're still doing what you do. Has it changed anything about the way that you practice? She came to you because her unborn child was disabled. Did you share with her any of the resources available to the parents of children with disabilities? Did you talk with her about the adoptive families who have opened their hearts and homes to special needs children? Such a conversation could have saved her life, and the life of her daughter Madison. Have you started having those conversations with patients since her death? Mr. Carhart, I am not asking you to stop helping women: but there are better ways to do it. Please, consider reaching out to And Then There Were None. It isn't too late to change your career path."
Of course, like my friend said, he probably would have shut me down long before I could get all of that out. (Perhaps I could pass a note.)
What about you? How would you react to being on a plane (or other close quarters) with an abortionist?